A compassionate space to grieve at your own pace, with a BACP accredited therapist.
Grief rarely moves through neat stages the way culture sometimes suggests. You may find yourself laughing one moment and crying the next. You may feel numb for weeks, then ambushed by a wave that drops you to your knees. Months after a loss you may still be forgetting, repeatedly, that the person you lost is not there. Years later, a smell or a song can return you to the raw centre of it as though no time has passed at all.
It is also worth saying that grief is not only about death. The end of a relationship, the loss of a role, a significant health change, a home, a friendship, a future you had quietly imagined, a version of yourself you are no longer able to be, all of these can carry real grief. If something you loved is no longer, there is grieving to do, and you do not need to justify it by comparing it to someone else's loss.
Grief therapy is less about doing something to grief and more about giving grief the room it needs. Much of the work is simply being met, without being rushed, measured, or quietly encouraged to move on. For many people this is the first time they have had that.
Where grief has become stuck, complicated, or entangled with other things, we can do more specific work. That might include exploring unspoken feelings, looking at what the loss is reactivating from earlier in your life, working with guilt or anger that is harder to say out loud, or where trauma is present, using EMDR to help distressing images or moments settle.
One of the things I hear most often from grieving clients is, "I do not think I am doing this right." Culture has given us a tidy story about grief, the five stages, a year of mourning, then moving on, and almost nobody's actual grief looks like that. The truth is, grief is far more varied, far more recursive, and far more individual than the tidy story suggests.
Some people grieve in waves, with weeks or months of relative stillness between them. Some experience grief somatically, in chest tightness, exhaustion, or a sense of being cold even when the room is warm. Some grieve in anger first, with sadness arriving much later. Some find that grief surfaces around birthdays, anniversaries, or seemingly random moments triggered by smell, music or weather. And some experience delayed grief, where the feelings only begin to arrive months or even years after the loss, when the immediate crisis has passed and the nervous system finally has space.
None of these patterns is wrong. Grief is not a project to complete. It is something that gradually becomes integrated, finding a place in your life that is neither the centre nor entirely behind you.
Sometimes grief is straightforward in the sense that, even though it hurts, it moves. Other times it becomes lodged in a way that needs more careful attention. Complicated grief, sometimes called prolonged grief disorder, can develop when a loss intersects with other difficult factors: a relationship that was complex or unresolved, a sudden or traumatic death, a loss that was not socially acknowledged, a previous unprocessed grief that this loss has reactivated, or a circumstance that left you with significant guilt or anger.
In these cases, the grief does not move because something is in the way. The work is to gently understand what that something is, give it the attention it has needed, and allow the grief itself to begin flowing again. This is delicate, paced work, and it tends to be deeply relieving when it lands.
I take grief seriously and slowly. There is no timeline I am trying to move you along. In early sessions we talk about what you have lost and what it has been like for you since. Gradually, as trust builds, we go wherever feels important, sometimes into the specifics of the loss, sometimes into your life before it, sometimes into the life you are trying to build around its absence.
For some clients, the work is short and concentrated. They come because something has surfaced that they want help integrating, and a few months of sessions is enough. For others, particularly with complex or layered loss, the work is longer-term. We agree what feels right as we go, and review regularly.
Individual counselling sessions are 50 minutes and cost £70. Sessions take place online across the UK via a secure video platform. There is a free 15-minute consultation if you would like to ask questions before booking.
Grief is not something therapy speeds up. But if your grief feels stuck, if it is interfering with daily life months or years after the loss, if it has become entangled with depression, anxiety, anger, or guilt, or if you have never had space to actually feel it, therapy can help. There is no rule about how long you should wait, only what feels useful for you.
Yes. Non-death losses are real and often under-recognised. The end of a long relationship, the loss of a job or career, the loss of health, the loss of a friendship, miscarriage, pregnancy loss, the loss of a future you had imagined, all of these can carry significant grief. You do not need to justify your grief by comparing it to someone else's.
This is one of the most common reasons people come to grief therapy. Grieving someone who hurt you, who was difficult, or who you were estranged from is its own particular kind of grief. The feelings are often more complicated, and they need a space that can hold the contradictions: love and anger, longing and relief, sadness and difficulty all at once.
Yes. Where a loss has traumatic features, sudden death, witnessing the death, the impact of finding someone, distressing medical or end-of-life experiences, EMDR can help process the specific moments that have become stuck without rushing the wider grief. We integrate it carefully, only when there is enough stability for the work.
Sessions are 50 minutes and cost £70, online via secure video. There is a free 15-minute consultation if you would like to ask questions before booking.
If you are carrying a loss that has not had space to be felt, therapy can be a place for grief to breathe.
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